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Mindfulness - Stress- Money

Just as we can direct attention in a Mindful way to how we relate to ourselves and to others, we can and should also direct attention, and understand how we relate to money. What kind of presence does it have in my life?

Perception of Money

The problem is not in the money itself, but in the way we view it and relate to it. Many of the beliefs we have regarding money reflect religious values, and/or political values, and/or cultural values. Others are related to the examples we see around us of good and bad experiences of family members, friends, including examples of famous people. We all receive influence through our parents and grandparents regarding how to view and deal with money. For example, what amount is good to have, how much is too much, how much is too little, where it is supposed to come from. All these examples have in a way influenced our choices and decisions regarding what profession to choose, what kind of goods to buy, where to live, etc.

The image and relationship we have today of money influences how we see ourselves. By dressing in a certain way, having a certain job, and acquiring certain goods I will be in accordance with the economic level or the amount of money that I identify with.

Depending on whether you attach a positive or negative connotation to money, reality will tend to manifest itself according to that perception.

When we do the exercise of honestly analyzing what beliefs we have about money we will easily realize that the way we view money has an extremely important role and a direct consequence in our lives. These consequences can be so deep and rooted that we don't realize that in many situations the basis of our relationships is not love and understanding, but money.

Money and Emotions

To have a conscious attitude towards money, for example, means to be aware of how we feel when we live our daily life, and to be aware of how the fluctuation of the numbers in the bank account interfere with our well-being and relationships.

The word Emotion is derived from the Latin word "emovere" which means to set in motion, in this specific case it sets in motion an action related and aligned to my perception of money.

Can you understand what kind of emotional connection you have with money? Is it positive, or negative?

In the times in which we live, money is very related to our survival, and the way we relate to it is an important and increased stress factor.

In stress the emotional connection will tend to be negative. As a general rule we tend to blame money for bad experiences. If what we feel is irritation, we will tend to make impulsive decisions, or blame others for bad decisions that supposedly caused us a loss of money or economic power. If what we feel is envy, what happens is that we are directing our attention and focusing on other people's economic situation instead of directing and focusing on our economic situation. By changing our attitude we can understand what steps to take to improve it. If what we feel is frustration, we will tend to blame money, usually the lack of it, for passing up opportunities, or for not having made certain decisions which could have made a big difference in the present, in terms of our well-being and the well-being of others around us.

In any case, if we have a negative emotional connection with money, this will also have a negative impact at the level of relationships, whether with people close or not so close.

When we have a positive emotional connection with money, we generally use money consciously, investing it in goods, products and people, feeling pleasure and joy. We are aware that the investments will have a beneficial impact, whether on our health, personal development, or sharing pleasant moments with family and friends.

Working your relationship with Money

If you feel that this is an important theme for your well-being, and you want to change the way you relate to money, or understand how you can transform money and its presence in your life, I strongly advise you to take the online course of the author KEN HONDA - The Japanese Art of Happy Money. This super clear course, with revealing practical exercises, reflects an inspiring and deeply transforming vision at various levels regarding the way we see and deal with money. Taking this course myself, I felt it was so important that I was inspired to write this post and share the course and this author.

I hope it will be as helpful, revealing and transformative for you as it was for me!

Author: Ken Honda –

Book: Happy Money - The Japanese Art of Happy Money.


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